Starting afresh

For the past 10 months,I have struggled to date again.Getting back into the dating game has been the most exhausting activity. I gave every excuse in the book,at first it was that I am working on myself,the other one was ,I am not yet healed. I realise that,I did not allow myself a chance at love,to find love and enjoy love.Enjoy myself,that's the word I have been looking for..I fail at this so much,enjoying myself in a relationship.


I recently met someone,whom for the first time made me find bubbles to try again.Quite a handsome young man,very outspoken,and strict..I've started smiling,looking forward to being with him but it did not work out..I am sometimes at fault,sometimes I am not..


Recurring failed relationships are exhausting,and at this point I am exhausted..I am going back to square one,this time I don't know how I would find the strength to date again..


I hope we find the strength,to go back and to love..but will it be as pure?





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